Friday, February 1, 2013

Excuses or Opportunities - It's Your Choice

Today I will not make excuses.  Instead I will make opportunities.

It is so easy to find a reason not to do something.  Especially when that something is hard, takes you out of your comfort zone, is not something you really want to do, involves change, requires us to stretch...

You get it - It's easy to find excuses to not do the things that are hard work.

There is no doubt that there are interruptions in life that cause you to place things on hold or rearrange plans.  They shake you out of your normal existence and forced you into theirs.  Emergencies happen, people get sick, trauma happens, and you can't control every single thing that is tossed into your path. Those types of things are reasons to take a step back or a detour until that event in life is under control.

The type of thing I am writing about is the excuses you make for not taking action, not making change, not moving forward, not making a hard decision, not moving out of a bad situation - the ones that you do have control in. You have encountered the kind I'm talking about; staying in a bad relationship, not making the changes to be the healthiest you, choosing to not take a chance, deciding to settle for less than you know you want and need.  These things all required an excuse to not take action.

By excuse, I mean CHOICE.

Some of the justification you use for your choice might be:

It's too hard.

It's a lot of work.

I don't think I can.

I won't because I'll probably fail anyway.

I won't be good at it.

I don't like "change".

I'll start tomorrow.

I tried it before and didn't like it.

I'm happy right where I am.

I might make the wrong move.

Do any of these sound familiar to you?

The list goes on and on and on.  I know this. Because I've lived this. I've used these excuses - made these choices to not take action.  It took a lot of work, a lot of thought, and a lot of time to come up with them in many situations.  I worried countless hours, debated back and forth in my head, had out and out arguments between my mind and my heart,  and exhausted myself emotionally - which translates to physically about why I should not do something.

I put a lot of effort in and found tons of excuses - choices to take no action. I bet you have too.

Think of how sweet life would be if you put the same, or even a portion of the effort in to finding an opportunity that you put into making excuses! If you are willing to put effort into making choices to not do something, then why are you so hesitant to take just one step toward the action? It could be fear, doubt, denial, stubbornness, or even your own addiction to your unhappiness that keeps you making excuses.

But just, what if... that one opportunity found and explored opened up greatness in your life? Even if it didn't, what harm is done by investigating it?

Women Enough: I know what it is to stay stuck because of my own choice to not take action.  Life is so sweet when you take back your power to choose your action and find opportunity.  Sometimes situations change right away and sometimes they don't.  Either way,  there is growth, strength, and empowerment with choosing opportunity instead of choosing an excuse.

So what's it going to be?

Will you make excuses or find opportunity?

1 comment:

  1. What a great post! I can totally relate to the exhaust yourself emotionally part on so many levels. Taking action is the only way to get what we want out of life, and sometimes the "making excuses" feels like action, but it's really not. Thanks for the reminder that taking back our power is a choice!