In essence, the pressure is off. Someone else can pick up for you where you need improvement. The answer to your happiness is in just a book away. Where you have failed, a program will make you right.
Wouldn't it be nice if a pill, a plan, or a program could fix you? How fantastic it would be to have something other than you to hold accountable to whether you reach a goal or not. At the end of the 365, if you are not where you want to be you could claim the program failed you or the product didn't work. Yes... that would be nice indeed.... to be able to hold someone else accountable for your own missed marks.
Women Enough: Here is the hard truth...
The only one accountable to you reaching your goals is YOU!
If you are not happy where you end up at the end of the next 12 months, it sits squarely on your shoulders. No pill or program will be the fix you need. It may be a temporary solution to a finish line, but certainly not what will take you past the finish line and on to success.
If you use a program to reach a goal but then stop the program do you slip back to where you were and say the program didn't work? That is much easier than looking yourself in the mirror and saying "I didn't make the changes I needed to make to not slip back." Maybe the program wasn't made for long term sustainability of your goal. But the reality is that you didn't make the changes in you, your habits, or in your outlook to sustain it long term. You didn't accept your own responsibility in the equation.
Yeah... that hurts a bit. I know. I've been there and done that more times than I can count.
But Women Enough... Here's the fantastic thing about holding yourself accountable. It's tough to get honest with yourself about your own part in your missed mark. But when you do, it changes your perspective. When you look at your own accountability in your goals, you see that you truly do have power over whatever it is you are trying to reach. You are NOT dependent upon a product or program nor is the product or program responsible to get you there. Yes, they may be a tool, but the biggest component of your success is your willingness to accept and MAKE changes that you need to.
- If you reach a weight loss goal on a program, but immediately upon reaching it go off of the program and back to your old eating habits? What happens? Unless you've made true change in your lifestyle, you gain it back.
- If you use a program to get your finances under control but as soon as you have a balanced budget, go back to your old spending habits, you end right back in the financial straights you were before.
- If you use self help programs to make your life "feel" better and change how you see yourself but don't change how you see the world, it becomes more of a self hinderance.
Do you see the accountable for change theme here? You - and no one else is accountable for your success or your happiness. You and no one else is accountable to make the changes you need to make to reach your happiness and goals. YOU ARE ACCOUNTABLE FOR YOUR OWN CHANGE!
Women Enough: I challenge you not to simply state a resolution, but to truly take accountability and make change. There is no sugar coating here; it's often very hard to change habits in lifestyle, spending, thinking, or what ever it is that needs change. It is habit because it is an easy default way of doing things. You don't want to work hard - You don't like it. You are tired in life, and you don't want to have to think, struggle or battle your inner monsters over the change. You like the comforts that you have and it would be really crappy to give some of those up. I get it.
But suck it up, put on your big girl pants and just do it. NO ONE WILL DO IT FOR YOU!