That, my dear Women Enough is a big ole chip on your shoulder.
There may be many reasons why and ways how that chip got there. Perhaps there was an injustice done to you at some point. Possibly a friend or co-worker was catty and self serving in how they treated you. Lots of situations are rough and hard to handle. Life can be tough. It throws us all of the makings of gigantic chips everyday. This is part of living.
But here's the thing...
Those situations, rumors, hurts, encounters aren't the chip that weighs down. It doesn't become a chip until we add the last ingredient... attitude. To our great benefit, it is the one ingredient we have complete control over. We may not be able to control what happens around us no matter how we try. Each person and situation is individual. Many of the forces that drive them are out of our own control - except attitude.
Attitude can be the binding ingredient in creating the chip. It can also be the mortar that binds it to us. If we buy into the drama and judgment, the poor decisions of others towards us, or the general knocks of life as some conspiracy or ill fated destiny, then of course we will construct a chip. Carry that same assumption and expectation into other situations and relationships and you have a full blown chip glued to your shoulder.
The good news is...
Attitude can also be the lye that breaks down the chip and the solvent that removes it from our shoulders. Keeping the attitude that others criticisms, unjust behavior, and attitudes towards us do not define who we are (it more defines them), is a force that can obliterate the chip before it has a chance to get very big. If we walk into new situations choosing not to assume it will be the same and not assuming that those we encounter are out to get us, then not only does the chip not form, there is also no surface for it to adhere to.
Some truths about chips....
- They are not attractive.
- Everyone sees them and will respond and react accordingly.
- Keeping the chip doesn't gain us anything - in fact it robs us of joy, energy, and relationship.
- Thinking that the world is out to get any one of us is well... a bit self-centered. Not that there won't be those that purposely try to hurt or inadvertently hurt, but we live in a busy world of busy people with out a lot of time to plot against us.
- You are in control over that chip.
We are not responsible nor able to knock a chip off any one's shoulder. But, a chip on our shoulder is no one else's responsibility but our own to knock off.
Do you have a chip that needs to be knocked off your shoulder?
Have you chosen a good attitude today?